What makes me feel like me

Shortly after Millie was born I read a couple different books (not the entire book, just a chapter or page or 2, which is all I've been able to get through) that talked about not losing your identity when you become a mom. Given how much your life is completely revolving around your little one initially, I can see how losing your identity is easy. And I think it actually starts when you are pregnant. I'm realizing that I haven't felt like "me" since I got pregnant, a year ago.

But, I took the advice of these books and have been realizing the things that make me feel like "me". Although I'm not sure I would have known what those things were until I start to do them post-baby.

So here are some of them:

1) Driving the Mustang - I stopping enjoying the Mustang while I was pregnant because it was too uncomfortable on my pregnant body. But wow! The first time I got in that car after Millie arrived, it was SO fun!! I get to drive it at least every other week lately, even for short trips to the grocery store, and love it!! I accelerate too fast, rush around corners when possible, and have been able to put the top down at least once, even just half a mile home from the grocery store.

2) Running and going to the gym - Not that I enjoy either of these activities, but my running partner and I are back out on our long route once a week, run another day during the week and made it to the gym (for the first time post-baby) yesterday morning. We've been running together since before her or I knew our husbands, much less were married with a kid! So it's a piece of me that I have enjoyed bringing back to life since Millie was born. We did continue to hit the gym while I was pregnant, but haven't much since the half marathon last April.

3) Scrapbooking - It's a small thing but Mark graciously made himself available last Saturday so I could scrapbook all afternoon. It was fun to just work on this crafty piece of my life for an afternoon. It's another thing I've done for several years that I've kind of missed since Millie was born (not that I always scrapbooked that often but it's different when the little one you want to scrapbook about doesn't give you enough free time to pick it back up.

4) Time alone with Mark - Definitely not something we've been able to squeeze in much. But getting Millie to sleep in the crib in her own room has helped and her going to bed earlier helps too because we can actually go to bed at the same time. I've missed being able to talk with Mark during little times like getting ready for bed at night and getting ready together in the morning. Last Thursday we went to dinner alone together for the first time since Millie was born. We've been away from her at the same time one other time and that was at his parent's house over Christmas and we ran to Walmart for a quick errand. We were gone 45 minutes and I worried that Millie would need to eat. I don't think she knew I was even gone! But over dinner we were able to debrief our days, eat at the same time, and enjoy some uninterrupted time together. He also let me drive the Mustang, even though we weren't going barely a mile away from Barb's, where Millie was.

5) Doing my nails - It makes me feel special and girlie and put together when my nails are pink. I figured this was something that would have to go when Millie came along. Although it's now dropped to once a week instead of twice a week, I've enjoyed being able to maintain this small thing. Again, Mark helps with this too because he'll take Millie while I do my nails and let them dry.

6) Wearing my yellow shoes - (I'm really not vain, just enjoy these little things ;) I have flat, pointy-toe'd yellow shoes that I've had for over a year and LOVE to wear. I've actually worn them so much they are practically formed to my feet. I was able to wear these shoes while pregnant but I couldn't see them over my giant belly ;) And right after Millie was born I barely got out of my sweats. And cute yellow shoes don't go with sweats, even if they are black ;)

So I'm enjoying adding a few "me" things back into my life and not feeling guilty about it. Most of these things are cheap, some even good for me, and simply take a little time out of my day or a cute outfit to accompany. I'd love to know what other moms do to maintain pieces of themselves...